The Left Delights in You Taking On Their Pain: The Psychology of How it Works

February 12th, 2021

     It is important to see the absurdity of the intentions of the left and to share and form a strong agreement with people of real intelligence and integrity. As I explained in the last post the core of the lefts falsity comes from blanket compassion (if you haven’t read that one it would help to read it first). Blanket compassion is an open border! An open border where one takes on the pain and stress of other people’s problems, just as the left fights for the insane policy of open border and paying for the problems of other countries and neglecting our own people. They deny the interest of Americans and put a terrible burden on them. One can see why left unchecked false compassion always turns into hate – it is diametrically opposed to how our psyche and soul (and our country) really works. If we really see how this works it causes an abhorrence in us, the same as if we were to encounter the presence of evil – for it is the continuous trick of hell.


(False compassion only works by the way in Christian based societies where there is an ethos of ‘loving they neighbor’ – a good thing that evil twists to its own purpose. You don’t see the phenomenon of false compassion in agonistic Arab society. Agonistic refers to an honor/shame society where there is very little value put on one’s personal psychology, and compassion for others, but ones the sense of self comes from outside, from one’s standing in the hierarchy in the societies code of honor and shame).


At core leftists are in profound pain, but they refuse to deal with the pain, and dedicate their action to putting it on others. They want you to feel their pain, but of course not let you know that it is from them. So they delight in ‘winning’ by lying and cheating and obstructing. Good people don’t want others to be in pain; but many good people are ‘used to’ and conditioned to take on others pain. This is the very point where the tentacles of evil can attach into us, especially through the people in our life. To take on others pain causes weakness and dissociation – it takes us away from a true sense of self. I have to watch that like a hawk because I am vulnerable to it. It doesn’t ‘feel OK’ to let someone else be in pain, but that feeling alone is not right. We have to let them deal with their pain for their good and for our good. (Good borders). It becomes much more complicated in dealing with our family and loved ones; for instance, like most people I am willing to extend myself very far for my children but the same principle applies for them too.

 
At the same time we need to strive to be open and understanding to the people in our life and country. This is why the union of love and wisdom is the source of all spirituality. I am affected in some degree by what the leftists do; yes, I am angry, but I strive to not let it move me into feeling disturbed – for that is debilitating, and erodes away at my life and sense of self. ‘False compassion/other peoples pain’ in image is like a leech/parasite with tentacles enmeshed in our own precious tissue. In seeing this we are disgusted and reject it. When I see it and remove it I then ‘cauterize’ the wound with the heat of fire – the fire of my own and will to heal and be whole. This creates a protective layer that internalizes the memory that I want my own pain and the good and strength received from working it; then it becomes a shield against further intrusion.

A Glimpse into the Nature of the Life and Ways of Angelic Wisdom, and the Lessons We Can Learn From It.

July 23rd, 2020

 

The wisdom of angels surpasses that of Man manifold for many reasons, but in this post, I would like to offer an insight into the psychology of angels that keeps them connected to the Lord, how our psychology is based in these principles, and the lessons we can learn from it in our life.

The wisdom of angels surpasses that of Man manifold for many reasons, but in this post, I would like to offer an insight into one of the reasons how the psychology of angels keeps them connected to the Lord, how our psychology is based in the principle, and the lessons we can learn from it in our life.
Swedenborg gives us a great clue into the psychological source of angelic wisdom and peace:
“As for the pictorial speech of the angels, anything whatever that is encountered is taken as an object, whether it be an affection, or an insight, or anything of that order; and by means of these, delicate displays are created. So the objects are realities apart from objects of the senses: such as an affection, an insight, a color. These objects then arrange themselves according to the subjects being thought about”. (Spiritual Experiences, 450).
This is so extraordinary because it allows angels to see clearly what is of themself, what is from others, and thus they can distinguish what God is teaching them with supreme clarity. We can do this to a degree in this world, but here things are muddled as to what is our own and what is from others. In human communication people project their own feelings and emotions, and we react to others emotions; thoughts and reactive emotions sick like mud and glue and cause confusion and annoyance. We easily take on other peoples thoughts and feelings, acting and reacting without knowing where it comes from. By being able to see an idea or feeling as an observable object one is not subject to it but can discern its source and draw from it with enthusiasm and skill for the sake of bonding with the Lord and others who have the same quality of love. If it is of some ill intent it is seen and rejected. Seeing thoughts and feelings as objects doesn’t mean one is ‘a cold distant intellectual ‘ (although it includes intellectual objectivity). It means not being hooked into emotional entanglement, but to see thoughts and feelings for what they; they see the use and origin of a thing and can relate to it from their own core receive the wonders of God in a wonderful way. To address the particulars of truth in ones life, to see and feel the real causes of suffering and of joy, pain dissolves and joy magnifies. It makes it so one does not have to react to the idea or feeling but can respond in a skillful way, and be very clear with their companions.
In hell it is the opposite. Hellish people are masters of hiding and the arts of deception and causing harm by getting into people heads and causing destruction to each other.
Our saving grace is we are all in relationship with the Lord from our core, and He works to keep His relationship clear with each individual, and He seeks not to allow others to obstruct this privy relationship.. This is important because it is the truth and it helps people ‘to keep their peace’. When Jesus is teaching His disciples and sends them out for the first time he tells them that if they enter a house and are accepted to then bless that house; but if they are thrown out He tells them to wipe the dust off their feet and keep their peace. It is important to not take on other people’s negative feelings. This is not easy, it is a common part of human nature to compare and be jealous, but this brings other peoples problems and feelings into one’s self which disturbs and disrupts. In the Bible when Peter tries to ask the resurrected Jesus why John was not going to die as a martyr as Peter was told that he would, Jesus says, “If I will that he remain till I come, what is that to you? You follow Me.?” (John 21:22). Jesus teaches that by being in our own core, and receiving from Him we will receive all the good we can handle. We don’t need to compare to to others. (The above verse is particularly potent for those who know Swedenborg for Swedenborg reports that in heaven Peter failed to do this. He writes that Peter took the saying that he would have the keys of heaven literally and was jealous that he did not have the power he thought he would. This serves as a great warning to us to not let pride rule.)
C. S. Lewis makes this point of wisdom several times through the voice of Aslan. Aslan admonishes people to not stick their nose into lessons that are between him and the individual concerned.
Developmental psychology, pioneered by Robert Kegan’s, shows how important it is to be able to perceive the difference between ourself and others for the sake of caring about others. His work reveals the developmental process of discerning the difference between object and subject, that is, of what comes from within and what comes from without, and how this is the basis for growing into maturity. Psychologist call it differentiation. Kegan describes how the ability to discern between one’s own needs and those of others, and then to care an do for others, is the essential skill of maturity. He identifies five levels of consciousness based on this skill. At the higher levels, one is able to see whole systems operating within a person in a society, and, the ability to observe the difference between their own system and that of others. An example of this is a good therapist who knows their own system and can see the framework of others and the patterns in their life, and from this skillfully guide them through the problems. The highest level involves all of this and being able to be self revealing in deep intimacy with another, to see one another and reveal like this builds a deep love. Even this is probably rudimentary compared to angels but it gives us an idea of how the same principles are at work. The quote from Swedenborg at the beginning describes the same kind of idea except in a more advanced way.
Finally, Swedenborg describes that in heaven the angels are always facing toward the spiritual sun, in which is the Lord. This is not a saying but an actuality. No matter how they turn Angels are always facing toward the Lord, and thus their minds are not easily obstructed by others, or from their love to the Lord. This is possible because there is no time or space in the spiritual world and all is based on the affections of the heart. So no matter how an angel is turning and interacting with others they are oriented toward their ruling love, the deepest of which is the Lord. Love is the gravity that orients them, in fact gravity corresponds to love. This allows each angel to be of use and a blessing to each other.

 

 

    Integration of Psychology and Religion: A Description of the Psychology of Childhood Omnipotence and Transferring Omnipotence to God: and How God’s Spiritual Principles Are Used in Marketing as Powerful Motivators

April 1st, 2020
    
      Earl Biddle’s description of childhood anxiety, imagination, and omnipotence offers deep insight into the inner life of a child, and into adult psychological development. Biddle describes the inner life of the child and the importance of the child’s phantasies. ‘Phantasy’ emphasizes creative imagination, whereas, ‘fantasy’, implies more an element of illusory day dreaming:
 
         “Childhood is usually regarded as a period of life which is normally happy and carefree…But it is difficult to appreciate the extremes of anxiety and joy which the small child experiences throughout his everyday life. The small child dies a thousand deaths. Equally often he reaches the pinnacle of bliss…(These experiences) are very real to the child, but the adult says they are imaginary (Biddle, p. 32). The small child under the age of three views his parents and other adults as gigantic, all-powerful people. They can do infinite good or infinite harm to him. But according to the logic of the child, a good person cannot do any bad, and a bad person can do no good… The child does not regard the gratifying father and the frustrating father as the same person. The same is true with the mother. Besides being real people the parents represent phantastic, illusory, or imaginary persons. The small child, then, has, in addition to his real parents, a phantastic father and mother who are preposterously good, and a phantastic father and mother who are preposterously bad.
       Emotionally the child under age three experiences only extremes. When someone pleases him he does not simply like that person, but loves him with every fiber of his being. When someone displeases him he does not dislike him, but hates with murderous intensity”.
 
         These feelings remain latent within us throughout life, but are worked out, and refined and gradually become unconscious as we mature. When we react to people and circumstances we tend to regress to these feelings. Biddle describes how the child learns to process and work out these feelings in his or her imagination:
 
        “The child cannot physically handle the parents. He cannot defend himself against them when they appear to threaten him. The problem is worked out by a natural process whereby the child makes inanimate objects, which he can handle, represent symbols of the parent. A match stick may become an imaginary bad father who can be chewed, broken into bits, and thrown away…By this process of imagination the child “really’ gets rid of the bad parents because he destroys a real object which symbolizes a parent to him. The child can also change his inanimate objects from bad to good, and thereby improve the phantastic parents, which the objects represent. The imaginary threats are thereby relieved. The child never attacks the phantastic parent with the intention of doing harm. He may do so simply to assure himself that he is not really causing harm. He may in imagination harm the parent he has clothed in destructive phantasies only to find the real parent does something good. When this happens the child must in imagination repair the phantastic damage he has done.
     The child uses the functions inherent in his own body as the means by which he exercises his imaginary omnipotence. In imagination he can annihilate the world by simply closing his eyes. Then he can recreate the world by opening them…His words have magic power. By calling Mama he can make his mother appear from ‘nowhere’. His tears, saliva, and bodily excrement are given phantastic destructive and creative power.
       The child’s omnipotent phantasies are of tremendous importance in his psychic development. One need not fear that the child will continue to believe himself omnipotent if his phantasies are not disputed. A brutal assault upon the phantasies of the child renders him helpless and insecure in a gigantic real world with which he cannot cope…The entire life of every individual is shaped by the impact which the real world makes upon the imaginary world of the child. The adult helps the child to distinguish between reality and phantasy, but the phantasies cannot be eliminated. Strangely enough, the desire for omnipotence, which caused man to lose paradise, is essential to him in early childhood if he is to regain heaven. Only the genius of the creator could change what appears to be intrinsically evil desire into an essential good.
        The phantasies of omnipotence do not continuously sustain the child. The child constantly fluctuates between feeling omnipotent and annihilated. There are many times too, when he is afraid of his omnipotent destructiveness. For instance if he ‘blows up the world’ he will have no place to stand”.

     In the child ‘omnipotence’ is appropriate, because she is innocent and helpless. Objectively the child is born in ignorance, knowing nothing, can do nothing for her self, and must learn gradually. In addition, all humans at birth have hereditary evil; this is latent in the baby and gradually comes into play. Evil is latent because a baby has not developed a conscience, the ability to discern between good and evil. The creator clothes the child in innocence so that it is adored and taken care of; and the child’s experiences of love and loving are stored as remains in her soul. These remains of love connect her to God, and temper the hereditary evil in her as she grows. These remains are an essential means of reception of good from the Lord through life, but the major work of life is to incorporate them into the adult self so we keep our connection to God and the ability to competent and care and give. 

      As adults we sometimes act out, otherwise known as regressing. When we regress, it is because we inwardly feel powerless, fear, or rage, so we reflexively return back to the feelings of childhood omnipotence for protection. These feelings are un-resourced, and so we act out. Childhood ‘omnipotence’ in the adult is by nature selfish, blind to others, and driven by survival. It is an automatic default setting inside for the sake of self-interest and protection. In any given episode as adults we may or may not have sophisticated ways of justifying it, but the quality and import of it is self-serving.
       There is in regression, also, if we remain self aware, an opportunity. Regression points directly to the wounds within us that need development. If we react the same as in the past then there is no movement, but if we act with some measure of composure, we can learn and change the phantasy within our self to a good one in some measure.
       Regression is also an opportunity because beneath the feelings of childhood omnipotence are remains – the stored feelings of innocence and love from childhood. These feelings are often felt as a sense of personal ‘specialness’, because deep down we want and feel a core of good about our selves that is seeking expression; ‘remains’ are in potential and need development and incorporation to the adult self. If felt and opened, remains can help us receive and submit to God as the true source of ‘specialness’. And in yielding to Him we feel joy, more our self. This provides the inner security to care for others as much or more than our selves (which is the cornerstone of society and religion).

       Remains are in potential and need to be spiritually mined and thus incorporated into our will. This is spiritual remembering and imagining. God provides that remains are inside everyone, as a means of connecting with His will for our life. Every time we regress there is an opportunity to renew the unresolved issue in our self that cries out for attention and healing. God can only be approached in humility, and remains (‘like a child’) help us do this.Advertisers use the motivating energy of our need to sort out our omnipotent phantasies, and to believe in the good father and mother all the time. A good advertising campaign attempts to tap the primal spot where we live inside; this way they influence us to image satisfying our deepest drives with their product. Where advertisers put their money is a good litmus test of something’s veracity: by study and process of elimination they do what produces. They are acting from very practical motivation – the bottom line, maximum results, making money.One of the psychological means Advertisers use is to portray animals and objects talking and acting like humans. There is certain magic and delight kindled within us in seeing these absurd and exaggerated images. There are hundreds of examples of this on TV commercials and kids shows. We see talking animals, sponges, fruit, vegetables, and trees, constantly, and it never ceases to be funny! Recently, there has been a commercial of a humorous, straight-talking cow that tells the mom of a family what everyone is thinking when the mother shows up asking about her goofy clothes. The family is too afraid to say anything about it, but the sassy cow tells her like it is – that she has fallen into wearing ‘mom pants’. It is hilarious for many reasons. It portrays a way that we can feel safe to hear and express what is underneath and real. The cow represents the ‘phantastic’ mother being real, good, and refreshingly truthful to us; teaching us it is ok to express our most keen perceptions. The modeling of truth-speaking helps us move through a barrier of anxiety, which is a deeply satisfying inner achievement. This is joyful to us because it develops inner skill, and growth movement. We move from being subject-to our anxieties, to a creative agent.
       Significantly, psychologists and Swedenborg write that all children up to a certain age believe that their play-animals and dolls are alive. This is part of what makes the above marketing strategy so powerful.
An example in pop culture of transferring omnipotence to God that appealed to millions of people was Tebowmania. You probably remember ‘Tebowing’ is the pose Tebow struck at important moments. After a great play, or after winning, or after losing, Tebow kneels on the ground with his head down, his knuckles to his forehead, closes his eyes, and prays. This is a potent image of transferring omnipotence to the good father. In this pose, after the mighty struggle to achieve, he submits to God, and thanks God. The act of kneeling itself is a bold, demonstrative act of humility and honor. It is like the knights of old who kneeled before the King.

Understanding the Cause of the Left’s False Logic Concerning Immigration and Other Things

June 23rd, 2018
You see the extreme left acting out what I have been talking about for a long time, that is, FALSE COMPASSION EVENTUALLY LEADS TO VIOLENCE. It does so because false compassion means to live by half the equation of life. Real compassion is to be ‘harmless as a dove, and wise as a serpent’. The union of these two is genuine compassion and genuine wisdom. To separate them makes the mind natural and not spiritual. All spirituality is based on the union of body and spirit, love and wisdom, faith and charity, earth and heaven and so on. It takes an inner skill to exercise this with integrity, strength and humility. To separate compassion and wisdom and any of these others makes the mind natural only, and not spiritual. The extreme left invests in blanket compassion which is to separate. They put ideology before life which is backwards, and why they do such foolish things. On the issue of immigration they justify their view by looking at only the tragedy in some cases of children being separated from parents at the border, and that is all. They look at small, emotional half-truths and leverage them to impose on all. To have moral, intellectual and spiritual integrity you have to look at the whole picture and the particulars. It is essential to honestly look at the CAUSES in the whole situation and the particlars. This brings intelligence. The true seeker follows the truth wherever it leads, not just according to their own ideology.
The reason false compassion leads to violence is because to live by half the equation you have to deny the other half, and this consume one’s mind and energy. The Lord said, ‘you are either for me or against me’, which means NO-ONE gets away with being neutral to God – that is to be lukewarm; it is a repulsive vanity. This is why the extreme left focuses all their rhetoric on emotional appeals, on illegal immigrants instead of our own citizens, why they don’t use wisdom of the constitution, why they give freebies and think it will win people over, why they want to raise taxes to throw money at things, why they refuse to ban or vet terrorists, why in general they want globalism and socialism. They do not have intellectual integrity so they appeal to emotional tactics.
Recently at a progressive church the pastor gave an emotional appeal about the borders; she said, ‘borders are just lines; they are arbitrary human constructs. If we really loved we wouldn’t need that’. This is an emotional half truth. We all know that people, to be psychologically healthy, need to have good borders. We need them to have a sense of self and where not to let others into that space, and those that we choose to be able to come in. It is because we have a strong center and identity that we can keep out harm and have healthy intimacy. It is the same with a nation; we must have well defined borders and a strong center with strong resources before we help others, otherwise we both drown and become weak. To have no respect for borders is the opposite of divine order
Theologically what goes hand in hand with false compassion is the belief that there is no hell. Proggressives believe it is not compassionate to believe there is a hell. This is part of operating on half the equation of life. Now all of this takes place according to degrees. A lot of people know where not to cross the line. For those that take this to an extreme they will justify a lot for the sake of ideology, like antifa types that do actual violence and damage to property, or the antics of Kathy Griffin and Maxine Waters. On the local news channels now they claim that Trump started the cruel practice of separating parents and children when they know damn will he did not, but it was passed by congress and other presidents long ago. Trump fixed it, and like a man of wisdom he is also keeping borders safe. On CNN they actually have a talking head say all Trump voters are nazis who are complicit with a barbaric immigration policy. This is an example of an absurd thing to say that dehumanizes people so that they can feel that their opponents have no rights, and no worthy voice. When you see your opponent this way it is easy to justify violence. But this sort of thing happens in many little ways. My friend said the other day to a friend at the kava bar in Berkeley that it was a good thing that Trump did in Korea. They other guy said ‘you can’t say that here’.
Most people see through all this. I am painting a picture here of how it works to give an idea of the cause of whats going on, and to help people be able to articulate it when someone tries to deny their right to address it.
Here is the worst case scenario of how this can lead to violence. When one doesn’t believe in hell and actively denies it that allows hell to run circles around that person or society. And when we don’t believe in God and deny Him we lose the protection of God and his angels. Some would say that this is not compassionate of God, but they are wrong, because the person did it of their own desire and will. God does everything possible to stop them, but they throw them self into hell.
Fortunately we have a nation that is tethered to God in its origin, and a president now that fights for God in America and instinctively knows how to be in union. This practice brings great joy to God and His angels, and joy and prosperity to our nation.