Fuck is probably the rawest word there is; to speak it greatly increases the intensity of whatever we are saying. It’s a very versatile word: it can be in anger, pain, aggression, pleasure, confusion, despair, shock – all of these can be toward ourself or others. It expresses utter contempt, hatred, and frustration. It just comes out when we can’t control ourself, or it can be used very intentional in aggression. The word has to do of course with sex, so the passion of the word fuck comes from the feeling and intensity of raw sex – when we are completely going for what we want, which can be totally selfish, or from deep, intimate, mutual feeling from inside each other. To say ‘fuck!’ gets the feeling of stress off our chest better than any word. When coupled with ‘mother’ it is heightened to even greater intensity – “mother fucker!” This has a straight-up, primal Oedipal root; it expresses the regressive rage toward the parent who fucks the mother. As an un-resourced child it is our mother that we most love and need, and want to be close to – and to the early mind of the child that is emerging from a feeling of self-omnipotence it is a primal shock that someone else ‘owns her’ by fucking her. To say ‘you mother fucker!’ to someone is the height of being incensed, enraged, threatened and aggressive. The essential reason we say these words is that they are the deepest roots of passion in the human psyche!
Often saying fuck is a moment of regression. Regression can be a negative thing but it also takes us back where we live and feel inside. Regression points the way to the problem that gives us a chance to see and deal with it in the moment. We have a chance to act on those feelings from our self with at least a measure of mastery that helps us grow and perhaps transform. If we reflect on what we feel and why we feel it and where it came from we can reframe the way it is stored in our psyche instead of reacting the same old way. This is a very significant way to explore the passions that arise when we use these words or in any situation where we are triggered.
People always say, ‘Jesus!’ or ‘Jesus christ!’ when they are suddenly offended, hurt themselves sharply, see the foolishness of some action for the first time; and when they are angry, emotionally disappointed, and deeply hurt. Without thinking, whether we are religious or not, almost everyone blurts this out, ‘Jesus’.
Some religious people say that using Jesus name in cursing is blasphemy. I suppose it could be if our intent is willfully destructive toward God and others faith, but in general I don’t think that its blasphemous. Jesus said: “Anyone who speaks a word against the Son of Man, it will be forgiven him; but to him who blasphemes against the Holy Spirit, it will not be forgiven”.
To call to Jesus or use his name in these moments of reaction is not a sin or something He condemns. It’s kind of amazing that we do this – because Jesus wants us to bring all of our anger, hate, and rage to Him! – and sure enough we use His name often in these moments. It is the constant vigilance of Jesus’ providence that evil not go unseen, for unless we can see it, it cannot be removed; so I think the fact that we do this is part of His work of providence. Jesus wants our feelings of hate and rage to be seen by our self and taken to Him. For evil, hate, and rage to fester unseen becomes like cancer in the body that is undetected. The faculty of reflecting on our self is extremely important for it is the essential means changing, and even of achieving salvation. Of course much of the time we say these words unconsciously, so the value is only in potential. But its right there, and we can interpret these feelings if we reflect. In the highest sense saying ‘Jesus Christ’ could be a calling out in prayer.
The word fuck is of sex, and sex in the highest sense is of true love. The meaning of sex exists on a continuum that proceeds from reproduction, love, to true marriage between a man and women, and this proceeds from earth into heaven. (Christians who take the Bible only literally say that there is no marriage in heaven, but nothing could be further from the truth. Conjugal love is the very basis of heaven and the ruling love of all loves in heaven. For more on this see articles on marriage love and heaven in this blog.) Furthermore, the name Jesus Christ is of true worship. Jesus is God, and the Holy marriage between His divine soul and divine human, is the very source of all love and truth and passion. And it is little known, but wonderful to see – that true love and worship have the same root. These are the two greatest sources of passion, happiness, and truth in all life. This is the essential reason why these words are intuitively invoked when we need to express passion. It is no accident that we go to them. Like all language it has become a custom to do so. Swedenborg describes how it is that ‘true love’ and ‘ divine worship’ have the same root:
“The origin of love truly conjugal is the Lord’s love for the church and this is why the Lord is called in the Word the “Bridegroom” and the “Husband,” and the church the “bride” and the “wife.” It is from this marriage that the church is the church in general and in particular. The church in particular is a man in whom the church is. From this it is clear that the Lord’s conjunction with a man of the church is the very origin of love truly conjugal; and how that conjunction can be the origin shall be told. The Lord’s conjunction with a man of the church is a conjunction of good and truth; good is from the Lord, and truth is with man, and from this is the conjunction that is called the heavenly marriage. From that marriage, love truly conjugal exists between two partners that are in such conjunction with the Lord. From this it is now evident that love truly conjugal is from the Lord alone, and exists with those who are in the conjunction of good and truth from the Lord”. (Apacoplypse Explained, 983)
What we so often express in a lower way has its roots in the highest love, and in worship, the two most intense sources of meaning and passion.